When you decide to divorce, you eventually need to tell your children about what is happening. They deserve to know what is happening based on what is appropriate for their age.
It is necessary to discuss this carefully so your children do not feel too stressed or overly confused. Here are some tips that can help with this difficult conversation:
1. Tell all your kids together about the divorce
It is best to let everyone know what is happening simultaneously. When you do this, you protect your children from hearing about the divorce from someone else. Having both parents together to deliver the news can also reassure the kids that their parents will always be there for them.
2. Address the concerns they have
Your conversation needs to focus on any concerns or questions that your children may have. For example, they may be worried about whether they will have to change schools or move away from their friends. Take time to discuss these concerns and let them know what will happen. If there is too much uncertainty, it can cause stress for your kids.
3. Let them know the divorce is not their fault
Most kids have a very self-centered worldview. Because of this, they may believe your divorce is their fault. It is up to you to reassure them that this is not the case. Both parents should take time to reassure the children that the divorce is not their fault and that they are still loved and will be cared for.
When it comes to divorce can be a confusing time. It is important to know your rights and options to ensure that the outcome of the divorce is fair to everybody involved.