Divorce is commonly looked at in a negative light. Traditionally, society has frowned upon the practice, but this is starting to change.
Perceptions that parents must stay together for the children, no matter what, are often not founded upon compelling evidence. Children are resilient, and they can thrive in many different circumstances. Just because you are no longer romantically engaged does not mean that you and your former spouse can’t be successful co-parents, who are actively involved in the upbringing of the child.
While divorce is challenging for children, they can come through the other side and develop coping strategies that last a lifetime. Outlined below are some of the less talked about benefits that divorce may have.
Children struggle with conflict
If you and your former spouse were arguing all the time, this would have hit the children hard. Research indicates that conflict between parents can reduce a child’s self-esteem, cause them anxiety and ultimately hurt the parent-child relationship. If you and your co-parent have taken the step to separate, it can free your children from this environment. Many parents note that they are able to find common ground in keeping the best interests of the child at heart and make a success of raising the child post-divorce.
Skills for life
It would be untruthful to say that children find separations easy to deal with, and there can certainly be negative impacts. However, it is important to take a balanced approach and address the positives, as well. Studies indicate that children of divorce can be highly empathetic. For instance, a friend of theirs may be witnessing their parents split up too. Having been in this situation before, your child will be able to offer support to those they care about. These are skills that will be very valuable later in life.
Divorce can take its toll on your children but they can come through the other side and succeed. As you navigate the process, make sure you have a full understanding of your legal rights.
