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Is divorce really disastrous for kids?

On Behalf of | Aug 25, 2022 | Child Custody

One of the things that stop many unhappy couples from divorcing is the fact they have kids. For years people have talked about how hard divorce is for kids and how maintaining the nuclear family is best, at least until they are older.

If you look around, you will see that the world is full of happy and well-adapted kids from all sorts of family situations. What matters is your relationship with them and their other parent.

Your relationship with your kids

Children can adapt to living most of the time with one of you. They can also adapt to splitting time between houses. They might find it tough at first, but they will get there. What they will struggle to adapt to is going from having two parents who are always there for them to a situation where one parent disappears off the face of the earth.

That is why judges asked to rule on custody typically try to ensure both parents continue to play a major role in their children’s lives.

Your relationship with your co-parent

Once again, marital status is not the key factor here. Your kid will struggle if you spend your whole time fighting with your co-parent, whether they are your spouse or ex-spouse. If things get violent, they will struggle even more.

So, if being together leads to conflict, divorcing may help you to calm things down. Children are better off with two parents who live apart but can treat each other with civility than two who live together and can’t.

Finding out more about divorce and custody options can help you seek a better future for yourself and your kids.


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